Wednesday, May 12, 2010


My dear friend Kelly posted this poem on my Face Book page. I cried the entire time I read it. The words are just so true....

Don't Tell Me

Please don't tell me you know how I feel,

Unless you have lost your child too,

Please don't tell me my broken heart will heal,

Because that is just not true,

Please don't tell me my son is in a better place,

Though it is true, I want him here with me,

Don't tell me someday I'll hear his voice, see his face,

Beyond today I cannot see,

Don’t tell me it is time to move on,

Because I cannot,

Don’t tell me to face the fact he is gone,

Because denial is something I can't stop,

Don't tell me to be thankful for the time I had,

Because I wanted more,
Don't tell me when I am my old self you will be glad,
I'll never be as I was before,
What you can tell me is you will be here for me,
That you will listen when I talk of my child,
You can share with me my precious memories,
You can even cry with me for a while,
And please don't hesitate to say his name,
Because it is something I long to hear everyday,
Friend please realize that I can never be the same,
But if you stand by me, you may like the new person I become someday.

Judi Walker
(In Memory of Shane)Copyright 1998


  1. All my love to you and Dominic!!!! I am so heart broken that Trevor is not here in your arms. Know that his name is spoken all the time in our home- he is remembered with love and joy! We can only imagine the depth of your pain. Love you so!

  2. Kelly I read this poem last night and cried my eyes out. I guess I am one who doesn't know the right things to say around you because I don't want to ever upset you. But please don't think for one minute that I or anyone has forgotten your precious Trevor. He was a wonderful baby and furthermore you were and are a wonderful mother to him. What that woman did was wrong in so many ways. Murder is the only word I think of not only for little Trevor but for you and Dominic, your lives have been forever shattered. And some people have said she needs to have another baby...that would help. I don't believe that because one you will NEVER replace Trevor (nor would you want to), but until you get thru all this court stuff I just think it would be added stress to you and a baby. However always your choice and things happen whether we want them to or not. Please know I am always here for you and will listen anytime you need or want to chat, cry or anything else for that matter. You were a great mom Kelly don't ever think you weren't! Love Jess