One year ago - 8/31/09

One year ago was Trevor's FIRST day at Ms. Dobson's daycare.

I have started to write this blog 5 different times. Recalling the events from August 31, 2009 are just too painful.

This is all I have to say: One year ago, Trevor was misdiagnosed with a stomach bug. We had gone to the ER because he was lethargic and vomiting after being in Ms. Dobson's care.

Trevor had vomiting, lethargic actions, no fever and no diarrhea. We NOW know these symptoms together are a sign of HEAD TRAUMA.

Trevor had been shaken on Monday. If I had known that then, I would have NEVER EVER EVER taken him back on Wednesday.

I hope this information helps to educate others on SBS. I hope it can save another baby.

Willful

Oh what a week it has been. It has been a whirlwind of emotions and memories. The week that seemed like would never come, finally did. Dominic and I were both sequestered so we were not allowed in the courtroom - A blessing in disguise. Thank God for Kelly and Kerry who represented Trevor and took detailed notes about the various testimonies and questions asked.

We were allowed in for closing arguments on Friday morning. I sat there and listened as Mr. Nelson summarized the important details from the week.

• Trevor was a HEALTHY baby. Not a weak preemie Ms. Dobson lead others to believe.
• Trevor was a “neurological disaster”. His injuries were so severe and so horrific.
• Trevor died within an hour of 911 being called.
• How poorly Ms. Dobson acted – calling me before 911, acting “dumb” on the 911 tape, only being on 3 reps of CPR when she should have been on 6.
• How Ms. Dobson’s story has changed time and time again.

It was then that Maurice described Trevor as “spoiled” and “willful”. Spoiled with love. He had so many people who loved him. Dominic and I spoiled him at nighttime, never letting him cry it out.

And willful…was he ever! It all started in the womb – too comfy being transverse instead of head down. How he loved to stick his butt right in my rib cage. Then he showed his willful side when he was born and fighting to use his underdeveloped lungs. The nurses kept saying what a feisty baby I had. I remember they had to “strap” him down because he kept pulling and tugging on the cords. He then fought to grow and thrive. He still came home 4 weeks before his due date! What a trooper.

His willfulness continued throughout his 9 months, gaining weight, hitting milestones and learning to do new things. His will was unstoppable. His love of life was contagious. His easygoing nature and big smile made it so easy to love. He knew what he wanted and went after it. Nothing in this world was going to stop Trevor James Ulrich from doing what he wanted.

Until he met his “monster”, someone who was not willing to deal with his willfulness. Someone who took advantage of a little baby. Despite what some people in this area believe, she murdered my son. She has been convicted in what the judge described as a FAIR TRIAL. Convicted by 12 jurors who saw her for what she is, a baby murderer. A woman who lost her cool and shook my precious baby to death. Dr. Hinds at Children’s Hospital in DC stated that Trevor’s injuries were the worst she had ever seen.

Well, the people who continue to support Ms. Dobson and refuse to hear the medical evidence and continue to bash my husband and I need to realized ONE very important thing….Trevor got his willfulness from Dominic and I. We are very strong willed too. We will not stand by and let people to continue to bash Trevor or us. We will continue to speak out about child abuse, SBS and Gail Dobson the murderer…I dare them to try to shut us up!

Update

I am working on a new blog. So many emotions and it hard to write.

I will say....On Friday, August 20, 2010 Justice was served. Ms. Dobson was found guilty of 2nd Degree Murder, 1st degree child abuse resulting in death and 2nd degree child abuse.

For You

My arms feel so empty
For you are not in them

My legs are rested and not tired
For I am not chasing you all around

My eyes are filled with a million tears
For I am so sad without you here

My hair is in place
For you are not pulling and tugging on it

My mind is full of memories
For you my love they will remain

My heart is full of sadness
For you are no longer here on earth

My voice is solid and strong
For I have been telling your story

Our love and bond is everlasting
For you are not replaceable my angel baby